The question isn’t ‘Is my loved one an addict?’
The idea of having a loved one that is addicted to something can be terrifying. Do you know what the solution is? Of course you don't. And that's why you're here. We all feel the same. To anyone reading this, if you are in this situation, we understand how you feel. Our mission is to introduce a unique solution for helping people get through these tough situations with their loved ones.
7 Things No One Tells You About This Journey
I love lots of people with substance use disorder.
In my own recovery process of being affected by the family disease of addiction, I’ve found myself and continue on this path of amazing growth. I was sick of nagging and complaining. I wanted to break old patterns, discover how to communicate better, understand addiction and why I react the way I react in all my relationships.
As a Family Recovery & Relationship Coach, I teach hundreds of parents and partners each month how to take responsibility for their own healing, create more compassionate relationships, and look at their family systems to understand the disease of addiction via my own coaching program.
But the truth is, I hadn’t actually experienced my own healing until I started understanding my childhood, my triggers and helping others on the journey of their loved one’s recovery— and it was my own winding journey to creating a loving and intimate relationship with myself that brought me here today.
I needed my own safe space in order to tackle the unprocessed trauma I’d suffered when my sister was in active addiction and from my Dad’s upbringing in an alcoholic home. In my early 30s, I was also with a partner who was in active addiction but it looked very different from my sister’s heroin addiction. I had no idea what prescription pills and alcohol looked like in someone’s struggling.
So I sought out a professional guide and together we embarked on a journey that transformed the course of my life. She asked me questions I’d never asked myself. She helped me envision a life that aligned with my core desires: understanding how I can help without losing myself, emotional vulnerability, compassionate communication, and reclaiming who I was as an autonomous woman.
In short: She gave me permission to rewrite what addiction does to affect others, and the courage to actualize my life with recovery.
I came out on the other side with a firm resolve to change my own life and help others do the same, leaving a career that was not in service of others and healing my familial wounds to have better relationships for better lives.